DON'T WAIT UNTIL ITS TOO LATE
Being proactive with changes is better than waiting too long to get HELP. Many times, it is women that are responsible for getting positive changes started in the lives of their families and marriages.
As an example, one of the most secretive and difficult things for women to deal with in their relationships with their husbands is the precense of pornography. Over the past several years, there has been an increasing number of women who are searching out help for what to do after they find their husband viewing pornography. Recent surveys now show that 70% of Christian men have some level of struggle with porn. In addition, approximately 20% of women are now viewing pornography for various reasons. Please review the resources page too, to see the recommended books that can be a starting point.
Many men refuse to make changes because their wives are silent or do not feel confident or strong enough to demand certain behaviors stop (not just with the pornography example above. It is the view of TOTAL INTEGRITY that men need to listen to their wives wishes and put them first. Many times for men with sexual problems, sex is the number one need and things like self care, family concerns, and a spouse move down the list.
Women can get help many ways and the best place may to start with a counselor that comes highly recommended by someone who a friend trusts. The goals are always for health and unity, which Steve believes, work the best when grounded in a Biblical framework.
Do not wait to stop something happens that you don't like or fail to act or to speak up about something that makes you feel bad either. Whether regarding porn, patterns of anger or abuse, finances, parenting, career issues, etc... Women do not need to struggle by themselves when their lives are not what the want, nor what they expected. Counseling can help make the necessary changes desired.
Remember, Steve is available through Skype for getting help if you are too far away to travel to see him. | 
